What is gaslighting
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where a person makes someone question their own sanity, memory, or perception. It is a covert form of emotional abuse, often carried out by individuals who seek to gain power and control over their victims.
The term "gaslighting" originates from the 1938 play and 1944 film "Gaslight," in which a husband tries to convince his wife that she is going insane. In the context of psychology, gaslighting is a manipulative behavior used to distort reality, making the victim doubt their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
Common tactics used by gaslighters include:
- Denial of previous agreements or conversations
- Blame-shifting or projection of their own behavior onto the victim
- Minimizing or dismissing the victim's feelings or concerns
- Intimidation, threats, or emotional blackmail
- Manipulating the environment to make the victim question their own perception of reality
Gaslighting can have severe emotional and psychological effects on its victims, including anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and even PTSD. If you suspect you are being gaslighted, it is essential to seek support from trusted friends, family, or a mental health professional.
Recommended resources:
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233)
- National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline (1-800-950-6264)
- "Gaslighting: Recognize the Manipulative Behavior" by Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, PhD (book)
Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.